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I miss my friends

7 Dec

My online friends, that is.

When I started blogging about our struggles TTC, so many women reached out to me who were also facing similar challenges. I bonded with these women over the internet and still follow their stories, as documented online. A few of them are now pregnant, but many are not and my heart aches to think about the pain they must be feeling.

Now that I’m pregnant, I know many of them no longer read my blog. How could I blame them? I remember I didn’t unsubscribe from any blogs of pregnant women during my year + of TTC and I hated myself for it. Every time I’d see a post by yet another pregnant woman, so many emotions would flood through me: longing, anger, jealousy, despair. This goes for social media, as well. I even wrote a post about how hard it was to see status updates about the aches and pains or even the joys of pregnancy. I always thought I’d be different when I was pregnant – I wouldn’t be like them. Haha… well, I’m sure you see what I’ve turned into…

I do try to be mindful about things I write in posts and status updates, but this is my life! It’s impossible to censor everything while still being honest. Plus, I want to document this time in my life so I can look back years down the line and remember how it felt to be pregnant for the first time. Also, I have every right to experience the joys of pregnancy, just as all women do. I have to remind myself of that everyday: it’s ok to enjoy this. It’s ok to feel so happy inside I might burst. And it’s ok to write about those feelings.


While I’m sad that I no longer have these connections with other women who are still struggling with infertility, I am happy that I’ve made new ones with other pregnant women and even moms. And I know one day my old friends will join me on this new journey.

10 Years

22 Aug
I’ve said before that facebook has ruined high school reunions and I stand by that statement. I had fun (kind of), but I’m just so shy and awkward and mainly just stuck to my group of friends rather than mingling with a bunch of people I never really talked to in high school. Plus, I already know what most of them are up to because of facebook.

I got my makeup done for the occasion and the girl at Mac did an amazing job. Please excuse the scary devil red eyes.

Thank goodness my husband came with me. I needed him there for moral support!

My girls! I stuck to them the whole time. I pretty much only said hi to other people if I ran into them on the way to or from the bathroom, or if they came up to me directly. I wish I could get over my shyness, but I think at this point in my life I might be stuck with it forever.

We left pretty early because I was starving (didn’t have time to eat dinner before we left and the appetizers there weren’t doing it for me). I stayed sober, but my husband had a few drinks and woke up with a nice hangover the next morning. Maybe I would’ve had more fun with a few glasses of champagne in me!

Have you been to a high school reunion? Would you go? Why or why not?

Busy and Lazy all at the same time

2 Aug

Since we got home from San Francisco, I have been extra lazy. I should be planning and cleaning and organizing, but instead I’m sleeping and sitting around and watching a lot of TV. After a week of lounging, we had a pretty busy weekend. We went to a friend’s baby shower on Saturday (more about that tomorrow) and Sunday we went down to Huntington Beach to visit friends.

There was a lot going on down there, so we decided to take advantage of it. First, we had brunch on Main St. It was so crowded due to the US Open of Surfing that was going on that weekend. After we ate, we decided to walk down to the beach to check it out.

It was so crowded with half naked teenagers that we left pretty quickly. We stopped by the graffiti wall on our way out…

We are so white.

After checking out the open, we headed to the OC Fair! We almost didn’t go due to lack of motivation, but it ended up being really fun, so I’m glad we did.

My husband was excited to eat. Oh, who am I kidding? We all were excited for the food.

This little T-Rex had a strange tail growing out of his groin…

We stopped and watched the performers for a bit. Love those dresses!

And we ran into this puppet thingamajig.

After we met up with some other friends, the boys played games.

And they went on a ride. We just watched because I was too scared.

Then, we headed over to the animals.

Baby goat!

Big fat pig!

HUGE cow.  There were two of them pulling a cart and I thought they were fake until I saw them move.

We wanted to go on this ride…

But we didn’t have enough tickets. I was sad, but mainly because I didn’t want to walk all the way back to the exit. My feet were hurting a bit and I was done walking around by this point.

It was a big day and it was really fun! I’m glad we didn’t sit around at home doing nothing, as that’s what I had been doing all week.

What did you do this weekend? Did you stay busy or relax?

Thank You!

11 Jul
[Edit – if you subscribe to this blog in Google Reader, you already saw it on Saturday. Sorry about that, I made a mistake while trying to schedule it. Here it is again, but this time it’s here for good and I added some pictures.]

Did you have a good weekend? I did. I got all my laundry done which is a big deal because it had been building up for weeks! Sick for a week + broken dryer for a week = lots of dirty clothes. I even did my husband’s laundry, which is something I rarely do. I think I could get used to this house wife thing.

Thank you so much to those that commented on this post where I asked you to introduce yourself. Some of you I know though blogging or the real world and some of you I’m so glad to “meet” for the first time! Since you took the time to comment and answer my silly questions (by the way, when I asked if you liked to knit I was kind of kidding and just giving a suggestion for something you might tell me about yourself, but now I know I probably shouldn’t blog about kitting much), I’m going to give you a shout out and link to your blog, if you have one.

Thanks to Nicole for always sending me notes of support and advice about dealing with infertility. She has three boys under the age of three and one baby girl on the way! She is one busy lady!!

Sarah is newly pregnant with her fist baby! She is a military wife and loves teaching Sunday School. She can crochet (I used to know how to do this as well, but I’d need a refresher), but not knit (that’s ok, I still like you).

Heather is a friend on twitter and she’s due with her first baby very soon! She loves dogs and works for an animal insurance company. I’m always jealous when she tweets about bringing her dogs to work with her.

Megan is a friend from college who just got married a few weeks ago! She has 5 tortoises (!) and is an English teacher like me. I’m so happy for her and love hearing all about her wedding!

Sarah and I went to high school together and she just made a big change in her life. She lives in Santa Ynez (one of my favorite places to visit – great wine tasting) and has a pregnant dog! I can’t wait to see pictures of the puppies!!

Morgan is enjoying married life and isn’t quite ready for kids yet. She loves animals and crafting. Check out her blog for some inspiration!

Pippa (no, not THAT one) is a reader from Australia!!! She is a SAHM of an 8 month old boy and a kitty cat. She likes to sew and scrapbook when she has the time.

Lizzie is my good friend Jessica‘s sister-in-law and is so fun to hang out with! She has three cats and loves dogs and wants more design posts. Hmmm… I’ll have to get on that!

Beth and I have been blog friends for a while. She has also struggled with infertility and it has been so nice to read about her experiences and not feel so alone. She likes the design posts, too, so I know I need to step it up in that department.

Angela has been trying for a baby about the same amount of time that I have. She taught herself to knit (so did I!) and her husband has six adopted siblings!

Cathy is the editor-in-chief of Weddingbee, the first blog I ever read. I remember being SO excited when she first commented on one of my posts and now we’re online buddies! She lives in Berkeley and I hope we get to meet in person soon!!
Thanks to all my readers for your support. Every comment makes me so happy and I can’t wait to hear from more of you!

Let’s Play Catch Up

7 Jul

I haven’t done a random post in a while and I have a lot to catch up on from the long weekend and the last few days so here it goes…

Last week, my very first week of summer vacation, I was sick as a dog. You name the symptom, I had it: vomiting, sore throat, body aches, headache, runny nose, cough, diarrhea… it was like I had four different viruses at once. No fun at all. By the weekend, I was still coughing quite a bit, but the other symptoms had subsided, so we headed down to my in-laws ranch. We had fun, despite not getting much sleep due to my coughing fits.

Our favorite part was hanging out with this little cutie:

She’s our friends’ baby, Stella, and this was during her favorite knock-down-the-cheerios-so-Mike-can-pick-it-up game. It was so stinking cute.

When we got home, our house was sparkling clean because my husband got me the most amazing end of the school year gift: the gift of a professional house cleaning. You see, I’m not so good at cleaning and I love nothing more than paying someone else to clean the house for me, so this was the perfect gift.

Even though the house was clean, it was kind of miserable because it was so terribly hot. Since we were away all weekend and didn’t have the air conditioning on while we were gone, it was up to 85 degrees inside when we got home, and that was after the air had been running all morning for the cleaning lady.

To escape the heat, we decided to see a movie in a nice, air conditioned theater. Since we’re too cheap to buy their over-priced popcorn and soda, we packed our dinner in my nice big purse.

We saw Super 8 and I really enjoyed it! I did have one big coughing fit in the middle of it, but I went out into the lobby and didn’t miss anything too important.

Today I had big plans to get a car wash, mani/pedi, see my new OBGYN, do some shopping, and go to a Dodger game. I only accomplished two of those things, but there’s always tomorrow! That’s what is so great about summer vacation – no rush to get things done.

My new doctor is AMAZING. I will give more details in next week’s Spearmint Baby post.

The Dodger game was really fun! My friend Roxanne took me as her date with our friends Laura and Scott who scored some amazing free seats.

Can’t see us, but look at that stadium!

I’m on a terrible schedule of staying up way too late and sleeping in way too late, but I’m hoping a little camping next week will fix all of that.

I’d like to do a little informal reader survey! If you’re reading, pretty please leave a comment telling me a little bit about yourself: are you single or married? Do you have kids or want them? Do you love dogs or prefer an animal-free house? Are you religious? Into politics? Like to knit? Please share! The more I know about you, my dear readers, the more I can tailor my posts to what interests you.

I look forward to hearing from you!

Weekend Wrap-Up

27 Jun

I’m sorry I posting this so late today. I’m not feeling so hot and couldn’t bring myself to do anything but sleep, eat, or watch TV until now. Pathetic, aren’t I?

Not only was it the first weekend of summer, but it was the first weekend of my summer break! Friday, I packed the last of my things at school and said goodbye. After work, I went out to happy hour with a few teachers, something I never do, to celebrate.

sorry for the blurry pic
I had so much fun and am so glad I got over my usual shyness and went out. Isn’t that how it usually works?
Saturday I was as lazy as I could possibly be. I pretty much did nothing while my dear husband worked on skimming the walls in our entryway. We are trying to get them flat like our living room walls are now (thanks to HGTV) and wanted to start the DIY process in the smallest of the three areas that are covered in horrible texturing.

It still needs one more coat and a lot more sanding, but it is looking pretty good! We are thinking we’ll need more than just one person to do out hallway and guest room, so if you’re into hard labor, let me know. We can pay in pizza and beer!

Sunday morning I met a few of the girls for brunch. I gave my friend Laura a late birthday present with this card:

Since there are four of us in this group of friends, I labeled each of these little girls as one of us. From left to right: Roxanne, Michelle, Laura, and Amy (me). Michelle brought her son Carter who was super cute even though I made him cry. Oops!

Last year, we got to go to the Twilight Eclipse premiere that was part of the LA Film Fest. Read about it here. This year, we decided to attend the premiere of Katie Holmes’ new movie Don’t Be Afraid of the Dark.

The movie was downtown at the Nokia theater across from the Staples center. We started off the evening with happy hour at Fleming’s which is one of my favorite date night activities. We always make an early dinner out of it. Our favorite is the beef carpaccio and calamari with sweet peppers. Mmmmm getting hungry just thinking about it.

After a couple of drinks and a good meal, we headed over to the movie where we had to endure complaining of one of the donor’s employees who believed we were sitting in their reserved seats. We ended up being moved (to better seats very close to where Guillermo del Torro, the film’s writer, and Troy Nixey, the director, sat) and found out that those employees who were so concerned about their seats left halfway through the movie to have drinks at a nearby restaurant. Whatever.

I liked the movie, though I think that’s because it wasn’t too scary – I don’t really like very scary movies. I wouldn’t say it’s a must-see, but it was a cool event to attend. Oh, and I got to see Katie Holmes in person! She’s extremely skinny.

The after party wasn’t as good as last year’s, no celebrity sightings or amazing decor, but my husband enjoyed the red velvet cupcakes and I enjoyed watching this adorable couple dance:

I love our yearly tradition of attending one event at the LA Film Fest (as a couple, my husband always goes to a few events on his own), but I’ve learned my lesson and will be wearing very comfortable shoes next year. My feet are covered in blisters today. Ouch.

How was your weekend? Busy? Lazy? Somewhere in between?

Weekend Wrap-Up

20 Jun

This was my last weekend before summer break. After this week of work I have six and a half weeks off to sleep in, read, lesson plan, and play. I’m not anxious for this school year to end because I have to leave the school that has been my home for the last four years. I started my teaching career there and leaving is definitely bittersweet.

On Friday, we babysat Gracie, a three year old cutie with a brother on the way. She LOVES my husband and could probably care less if I came with him, but I think her parents prefer me to be there for bathroom trips and PJ changing. We played trains and watched Wonder Pets and read stories.

Saturday morning, we slept in late. Like almost 10am late. Usually my husband will get up early to feed the dogs and go to Home Depot and start some work around the house while I sleep in, but not this time. He did get up to feed the dogs, but he came back to bed and slept in with me. It was nice.

Even though he slept in, my husband still ended up taking a trip to Home Depot to get some pieces he needed to hook up the water to our new refrigerator. While I cleaned behind the old fridge, he hooked up the water and we made the switch. Then, I cleaned out the inside of the old fridge and stocked the new one.

After that, we took the dogs to the dog park before heading out for a festival of short films my husband had to go to for work. We ate at Umami burger first (YUM) and then sat through the most boring three hours of my life. The bar/lounge/theater it was held in was freezing cold, the chairs were terribly uncomfortable, and the films were awful. Well, most of them were. There were a couple that I liked, but mostly I wanted to be anywhere but there. I was happy to support my husband, but you can bet I won’t be going to another one of those for a looooong time.

On our way home, we both had a craving for some Mexican hot chocolate so we stopped at the grocery store and bought some Abuelita’s hot chocolate mix. I’d heard about it from someone on twitter and have been meaning to try it ever since. It was sooooooo good. Even my husband loved it and he’s not usually a big hot chocolate person. It will definitely be part of my nighttime routine from now on (or at least until it gets too hot outside).

Sunday, we both woke up early for a change and I made us omelets. I never make breakfast on the weekends because I’m not a morning person AT ALL, but my husband begged me to cook him breakfast for once since he’s always the one who gets stuck with the chore, so I did. It was yummy and it made my husband happy. Win win!

After breakfast, we headed out to Huntington Beach to hang out with our friends Paul and Jackie. These friends also happen to have Jackson’s brother, Marlowe and since Saturday was their first birthday, we had a little celebration.

Happy Birthday Pups!

Paul made some delicious steak sandwiches and grilled peach sundaes and Jackie showed us around town. The dogs had a blast, though we did leave poor Ruby at home, and it was nice that they got to see each other for their birthday.

We also got to see the house my husband grew up in:

Isn’t it amazing? And one block from the beach. I’m so jealous.

For dinner, we headed over to my parents’ house to celebrate father’s day. Jesus, my stepdad is a chef and, even though it was supposed to be his day to be pampered, he cooked so much amazing food for the family. This makes the card we got him so much more appropriate. Oh, and my mom and little brother also got him the same exact card. Great minds think alike, right?

sorry for the crappy phone pic

After eating enough food for five family dinners, we played Life until we couldn’t take it anymore. I think we lasted until about 9pm.

Overall it was a great weekend! How was yours?

Weekend Wrap-Up

13 Jun

This weekend wasn’t particularly exciting or eventful, but I thought I’d start a weekly weekend wrap-up and there’s no time like the present.

Saturday didn’t start off so well. My husband and I were going to go see Hangover 2, but his friend called and asked him to come over and help him put together a basketball hoop for his kids. He left and I sulked in bed for an hour or so until I decided to go to Home Depot to ask about how to fix our ugly tile in the kitchen. When I tried to start my car, I realized the battery was dead. My husband came home to jump my car, but then my radio wouldn’t work. We went to Home Depot together, got some advice about re-grouting and sealing, bought some more tomato plant cages, and came home. Then, we tried to get my radio working.

I was determined to figure this out because I have recently become addicted to audio books and am in the middle of Lincoln Lawyer right now. I love it so much and can’t wait to drive somewhere so I can listen to more. When I get to work or home from work, I sit in my car for as long as possible so I can keep listening. So, now you see why I just had to fix my radio. Since my car has a built-in navigation, any time the battery dies and the system is reset, I have to enter a code. I bought my car from CarMax and not a Honda dealership, so they had to look up the navigation code when I bought it and it took some digging. However, this wasn’t the problem on Saturday. After I entered the navigation code, it asked for a code for the audio, which I have never had to enter. This code wasn’t anywhere in my manuals and we tried parts of the vin number, which didn’t work, so I called our local Honda dealership. They tried to help me over the phone, but we were both not understanding each other, so the service rep told me to go in.

They were amazing. It took a good hour and more than six guys to figure it out, but they did and they didn’t charge me a penny. Thank you Honda.

After all that drama, my friend Michelle invited me to her mom’s birthday dinner at Duke’s in Malibu. I was supposed to babysit, but decided I really needed a night out with the girls after such a stressful day, so I canceled babysitting and joined the ladies.

I think I need an iphone solely for the instagram and postagram apps.
I got to drive a Bentley full of teenagers while the other ladies took a limo (I think I got the better deal) and we arrived just as the sun was setting, granted, it was very overcast and there wasn’t much of a sunset to be seen. Dinner was delicious and we had a great time. I need to get out with the girls more often!
Sunday, my husband and I took both of our cars in to EZ Lube right down the street and then walked from there to Cables, a diner/coffee shop, for breakfast while our cars were being serviced. Then, we took the dogs to the dog park where Jackson peed on every single tree and trash can a minimum of 5 times each. Since someone was having a huge party at the park with a DJ and everything, we decided to hike up one of the trails behind it to get away from the crowd.
This gorgeous view was the reward for our workout. It would be a great place to watch fireworks for the 4th. We could bring some beach chairs and a cooler…
After our impromptu hike, we decided to go check out an island I want to get for our kitchen at Crate and Barrel.
Even though our kitchen cabinets are white, I think the black island would look good and wouldn’t get as dirty as the white one with our dogs and future babies. It is more than I’d like to spend, but I have looked at so many islands over the last few months and it is the best one I can find that meets all our criteria. Every time we make a meal, I’m dying for more counter space and a real silverware drawer would be nice, too (ours is in a cabinet right now because there is no real silverware-appropriate drawer in our kitchen). We didn’t buy the island today, but I’m going back soon to make the big purchase. I can’t wait.
Sunday night my husband went to watch the basketball game with his friend and I went to The Counter in Studio City to meet up with a couple of friends I haven’t seen in far too long, Angie and Lindsay.
I got a 1/3 lb beef burger with lettuce, cheddar, grilled onions, and guacamole. It was good, but really messy.
Overall, I had a really nice weekend and was so happy I made time to hang out with my friends. I’d like to make a commitment to see a friend at least once a week. I think I can do that and I think it will be really good for me.
How was your weekend? Do you get out to see your friends often or are you a bit antisocial like me?

Happy 3-Day Weekend!

27 May
Photo from Design Mom
Tonight I’m celebrating my friend Michelle‘s birthday, then heading to my in-laws’ ranch to escape for a few days. Some of my husband’s (and now my) friends will join us Saturday for a BBQ and we might do some wine tasting on Sunday, which will be lovely. I’m excited to unplug and read some Sookie Stackhouse books I’ve neglected.
What are your plans for the long weekend?

Congratulations Laura and Scott!

24 May

On Saturday, we celebrated the nuptials of two great friends. I’ve known Laura since middle school and met Scott when he moved out to CA with Laura a few years ago. Their wedding was beautiful and I was so honored to be included in the festivities.

I also made Laura’s ring bearer pillow. I used this tutorial from… who else? Martha! Here’s how it turned out:

Yes, I made it all by myself!!! No pillow form or anything! I’m pretty proud.

They had a photo booth at the wedding and here’s our strip:

It’s hard to see, but in the first picture, we have lettuce in our teeth. We’re so funny!! Ha.

We had a great time and I’m so happy for the newlyweds!